I became a mediator for several reasons, the first stemming from deep personal experience following the break-down of my marriage and all the consequences such a devastating trauma brings.
My story
Prior to entering the professional world of mediation, my original passion and first profession was in the creative industries as a designer and photographer – with little or no knowledge of dispute resolution, family law or conflict management. But as the saying goes, “life is the best teacher”. During my divorce, I needed to understand what rights I have under UK Law and the Islamic Law and how to pursue these rights. Hence, I took up the challenge of studying both branches of legal practice, the secular and Islamic. At the time, I was and remain, a proud father, and as such having access to my son was of paramount importance to me, a process that was made hugely unnecessarily difficult as a consequence of protracted and entangled legal disputes. Nevertheless, I successfully managed the litigious processes and have ever since enjoyed a very amicable and sociable post-separation life with my family, son and ex-wife.
It was upon encountering such experiences that spurred me on to start volunteering within the British Muslim community to help with family issues, litigation, court process, informal mediation and on many occasions have found myself acting as a ‘McKenzie Friend’ (a non-legal, facilitator and associate) in a number of cases over a number of years.
Your stories…
Fast forward some five years, I have encountered many families on low income or challenging circumstances with little or none of the necessary skills or access to the justice system. Other cases pursued claims through the court system and the traditional civil litigation process, which, in my experience, did not necessarily end advantageous to either party and with the arduous exposure of a trial leaving many bereft of funds and demoralised due to the process. In many cases, the financial implications of pursuing such a process resulted in disproportionate sums being devolved in legal fees, sometimes over and above what the parties originally claimed for from each other.
I now have been practising family mediation successfully for a number of years; aligned with my natural problem solving skills, I decided to train as a mediator and the rest as the saying goes, is history! One of the key aspects I really enjoy about being a mediator is the satisfaction from leading parties to an amicable solution, to the parties this dispute whatever it involves has been a burden, an unnecessary stress which has plagued them for months, even years, proves a mental drain and a drain on finances and grossly unwanted pressure on their personal life and relationships.
I hope to be able to serve you, for the betterment of our society through helping to secure amicable agreements and resolutions for everyone involved in what has sadly become an all too often repeated occurrence. Mediation is a strategy and a solution, and a proven one, if I can assist in helping to achieve an amicable, agreeable solution for all please contact me….
Tawhid ar-Rahman, Mediator
BA (Hons), MA
‘Every child deserves the love and affection of both parents’
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