About Salam Mediation

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Salam Mediation is a specialist family mediation practice helping people deal with MIAMs, child arrangements and financial issues after separation.

We work mainly online with families across England and Wales, and in person in London. The practice is built around clear explanations, a structured process and a simple route from the first enquiry to the next practical step.

A practice, with a named professional behind the work

You should always know who is professionally responsible for your mediation.

The practice is led by Tawhid ar-Rahman, who is listed by the Family Mediation Council as an accredited family mediator for all issues, qualified to sign the relevant court forms and offering online mediation. The same mediator stays with your case from the first meeting to the written outcome. More about Tawhid ar-Rahman.

The kind of cases we are used to

People do not usually contact a mediator because everything is already easy. We work with families dealing with:

• child arrangements after separation;
• contact that has reduced or stopped;
• repeated disagreements about holidays, handovers or communication;
• financial disclosure and missing information;
• property, mortgage, pensions, savings and debts;
• cases where direct discussion is difficult and shuttle mediation may be considered;
• court proceedings where mediation is still being explored;
• language and interpreter needs;
• family situations shaped by different cultural, faith or wider-family expectations.

None of that tells the mediator who is right. They describe the kind of complexity family mediation needs to be able to hold without taking sides.

Clear before clever

Family-law language can make a difficult situation harder to understand.

We explain what a MIAM is, what the next meeting is for, what information is needed and what happens afterwards, in ordinary language. Where a legal or court rule matters, we link to the official source and keep the boundary between mediation information and individual legal advice clear.

Comfortable with conflict

Mediation does not require two people to arrive on good terms.

The mediator’s role is to structure the discussion so that each person can take part, the issues can be separated from the personal history and proposals can be tested in practical terms.

That can include shuttle mediation, where each person stays in a separate room or video space. Shuttle is considered after individual assessment; it is not a universal answer to high conflict or to safeguarding concerns.

Language, culture and family context

Families do not all communicate in the same way or come from the same cultural setting.

Family Mediation Council material about this practice has highlighted work with separating families from varied backgrounds, multilingual and interpreter-supported mediation, early engagement and constructive communication.

Mediation is offered in English, Bengali and Hindi directly by the mediator. Portuguese is available in house, and Arabic, Punjabi and Urdu can be arranged with an interpreter. Our mediator is also a member of the Family Mediation Council’s Equality, Diversity and Inclusion Team, which works on widening access to mediation across communities that have used it least.

Access is not only about language. Mediation runs on long and densely written documents, and if you are dyslexic or take in written information differently, that is a real obstacle rather than a small one. Say so and the process is arranged around it – documents talked through rather than sent, forms broken into shorter pieces, plain summaries, more time. Read more about accessibility and additional support.

We do not assume one family model, one faith or one cultural norm. Where a family is working through a religious separation alongside the civil one, understanding that context is part of the job. We do not give religious advice, guidance or rulings of any kind; this is a family mediation service, open to any family, of any faith or none.

Children remain central

Child-arrangement disputes often arrive framed as one adult’s rights against another’s.

Mediation asks a different set of practical questions: what is happening for the child, what routine is workable, what concerns need to be understood, and how the adults can make future decisions without asking the child to carry the conflict.

Financial cases need structure, not slogans

Financial mediation is not simply a conversation about splitting things fairly. It requires disclosure, documents and a clear understanding of property, pensions, income, savings and debts before proposals can be tested.

We treat that structure as part of good mediation, while recognising the point at which independent legal, pension, tax or other advice is needed.

Professional standards

We work within Family Mediation Council professional standards, and the mediator’s current registration and accreditation can be checked on the FMC register.

Nominated for Family Mediator of the Year and Diversity & Inclusion at the National Mediation Awards 2026.

Our complaints procedure and privacy policy set out how we handle concerns and personal information.

Start with the right first step

If you already know you need a MIAM, book an appointment. If you are not sure yet, a free 15-minute chat is the quickest way to find out. Our fees are published in full, and how mediation works sets out the process end to end.